it is not all doom and gloom
Interestingly people with negative mindsets have more health problems. They have a harder time in life and struggle with relationships... more so than people with positive mindsets.
Optimistic people lead longer, healthier lives than their doomsday peers. They also enhance the morale of those around them and cope with stress more effectively.
So it sounds like a no-brainer to choose the optimistic side of life - it's just kinda better for you.
But when it comes to tough conversations that can be easier said then done. The reason that these conversations are tough is that we often can't see a way out the other side. It can feel like it's going to be like this, tough, for a long time.
But it's not all doom and gloom. Being able to look at the situation you are in with a more optimistic lens starts with being aware of your own mindset throughout the conversation.
Mindset makes a difference
Your mindset is simply the way that you set your mind. We always have a choice about what mindset we bring into and continue throughout a conversation. In fact it can be one of the few things that you have 100% complete control over.
The most powerful mindset you can bring to a tough conversation is a POSSIBILITY MINDSET.
Possibility mindset sits on a continuum where up the other end is a mindset of cynicism - this is never gonna work, why even both anyway.
Possibility mindset on the other hand is the belief that it's possible that things can get better. That it won't always be like this. Optimism and possibility are great friends, with one comes the other.
Download the handout below for tips and strategies on how to boost optimism both for yourself and others:
FINALLY, What does success look like?
Often stepping into tough conversations we get clear on what we don't want to see. But how can we recognise success or a step in the right direction of success if we haven't gotten a clear picture of what success looks like?
Ask yourself the following questions:
1. What is the best outcome of this conversation?
2. How will I know that this conversation has been worthwhile?
3. What specific behaviours are we shifting - both mine and the other person's?
Enjoy the goodies below and we'll explore the importance of non-verbal communication. Let's do it!
- Guided intro to mindfulness:
- Take 10 every day mindfulness: